When asked some key ways Steve encouraged him, Keith, a co-worker answered: “Take quiet time alone to commune with God on a daily basis. Feel comfortable about speaking faithfully at work. You never know when you might plant a seed. Set individual faith goals and make them right sized. Bigger than a first down and smaller than winning the game. Make them like a touchdown and celebrate accomplishing your faith goal with joy.”
I can’t believe my friend Steve has been gone six years now. It happened so suddenly. One morning, in January 2017, he never woke up. The news sent ripples through the faith community and at the corporate offices he’d recently retired from. We were all in shock. Fittingly, an enlarged heart contributed to his death.
A few days later, I was given the privilege of saying a few words at his life celebration. I asked the hundreds gathered for a show of hands for those who’d dined with Steve, and he’d insisted on picking up the bill. Over half the folks raised their hands.
Steve was that kind of person. If he felt like he could help you in any way towards becoming more the person God designed you to be, he’d go all out.
Even though, he was a few years younger than me, I considered him a mentor, especially in leadership and business. He had a keen mind and rose quickly in his career to the upper executive level in a large corporation. This is where I met him.
Steve excelled at work, but he never took his eye off the loftier aspects of God’s kingdom. He listened well, as he talked with you, praying for insight as to how he could add fuel to your passions and gifts.
Being careful to never cheat the company, he’d use breakfasts, lunches and breaks to meet with folks who seemed to have spiritual interests.
He and I often met at Arby’s or Cracker Barrel near the office. During one of these meals, I first experienced his touchdown signal. I don’t remember the exact circumstance, but I’ll always remember my excitement when he suddenly raised his hands and yelled “touchdown” at my answer to one of his coaching questions.
When he saw folks moving in what he felt like was their “sweet spot” and making some significant advancement in their faith goals, this was a touchdown. And he wasn’t going to pass it by without joyously celebrating it with you.
The impact Steve had on me can’t be overstated and I know I speak for countless other folks who were blessed to know him.
Six Years Later
As a tribute to him, and to mark the sixth anniversary of his homecoming, I’d like to share, in no particular order, six ways Steve positively influenced my life.
Savor and Enjoy Life
God was Steve’s highest joy. This was a belief which God developed over the course of his life, as he matured in his relationship with Jesus. Steve was always aware of how easy it is for idols to creep into our lives, but as time went on, and as his surrender deepened, his freedom in Christ grew.
With God at the center of his affections, Steve lived life with gusto. He was a gifted photographer who loved capturing adventures on film, especially with his family.
He sought to be present and to savor life’s moments. When we ate together, he loved to slather whatever he ordered with a lot of sauce. I saw this as an example of the exuberance in which he lived, savoring moments.
When he was in college, he and his racquetball partner played a joke on the rest of the competitors in a tournament. By naming their team “Bye”, they made it to the finals because teams assumed they weren’t playing and didn’t show up. He loved a good laugh.
Defer to Others
I watched Steve, time after time, live out the following two verses.
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men (Philippians 2:3-7).
A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another (John 13:34-35).
When you were with Steve, you could tell by the questions he’d ask, and the ways he invested in your life, that he really cared. His heart was to look for ways to love you by extending what God had entrusted to him to you, in order to build you up.
Learn a Person’s Passions and Gifts
Steve was a master at asking probing questions. When he was with you, he listened intently to you and to God. Steve wanted to discover what he would call your “sweet spot”. He desired to be a catalyst for you in something which activated your passions and gifts. When he sensed your heart was coming alive about something, he would encourage you in it. In these cases, Steve partnered with you to add fuel to your flame.
When he found out my daughter was performing some songs at a downtown venue, he and his bride Sharon, showed up to encourage her passion.
And, as mentioned before, when there was a victory in an area you were passionate about, he’d give the touchdown sign with joyful exuberance.
Maximize Your Influence by Investing in Leaders
Steve was a leader of leaders. Not that he wouldn’t invest in folks who didn’t seem to be leaders, but he took the command to seek God’s kingdom first seriously. [1] He figured his contribution to advancing God’s Kingdom would be maximized if he streamlined his investment toward proven leaders.
He was involved in several leadership development programs and made a huge impact among executive teams wherever we went.
From one of the executives at Steve’s workplace when asked for one of two ways Steve encouraged him in his faith, “Take quiet time alone to commune with God on a daily basis. Feel comfortable about speaking faithfully at work. You never know when you might plant a seed. Set individual faith goals and make them right sized. Bigger than a first down and smaller than winning the game. Make them like a touchdown and celebrate accomplishing your faith goal with joy.” KEITH
Require a Hoop
Occasionally, I’d ask Steve to help folks in my life, particularly with financial issues. He was great with finances and a spreadsheet master.
Steve was always willing to help, but he would require action at the beginning of the process to be sure the person was serious.
For example, if I requested financial coaching for a person, he would require them to provide a list of monthly income, expenses, and a savings/debt picture first.
He called this a “hoop” – a task for the recipient to accomplish prior to receiving help. Steve would wait for the hoop to be jumped through before proceeding. This way he knew the person was serious about getting help. This also gave him some starting data to work with.
Be Extraordinarily Generous
Steve’s generosity is what stands out most to me. He loved to give, especially when his giving would encourage you in your “sweet spot”.
As mentioned before, we was always listening for ways to invest in a person’s passions. And he didn’t just give financially. He’d also give his time, skills, and possessions; whatever he could give to advance the kingdom or bring you joy.
He once drove across town to our house to photograph our family Christmas picture.
Steve didn’t just give in ways which would have wide impact. I was told he carried a glove box full of meal cards for folks he’d come across who were in need.
Living Out Your Faith in the Workplace
In his later years, Steve created an excellent video series on living out your faith in the workplace.
Check them out:
Living Out Your Faith in the Workplace
Prayer
Lord, thank you so much for Steve’s life and for his friendship. You made him intelligent and generous. Thank you for using him in my life and in so many others.
Thank you for how he savored and enjoyed life.
Thank you for how he looked out for the interests of others.
Thank you for how he studied others to determine their passions and gifts.
Thank you that you made him a leader of leaders who had tremendous impact on folks at the executive level.
Thank you also that he cared about ordinary folks and loved being a blessing.
Thank you that you gave him a generous heart and that he delighted in bringing joy to others.
Amen
A verse his son Jesse often heard him quote: Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God. Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father (Colossians 3:15-17).
[1] Matthew 6:33
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