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(The Everlasting Way) Loving Without a Kickback

March 3, 2026 robuck4@aol.com Leave a comment

Several years ago, one of my sons and I were tending a burn pile down by the barn. As we sat in camping chairs, water hose ready, watching the dried limbs and brush blaze, he had something to tell me that was very hard to hear.

As my eyes followed a floating ash dancing upward in the billows of smoke, he said, Dad, growing up I felt as if you cared more about the relationship than you did about me.

He explained that he knew I loved him, but he could tell I cared a lot about being viewed as a successful father.

His words pierced my heart. I knew what he was saying was true. Fear of failure as a (son, husband, father, provider, brother, friend, employee, employer, etc.) has long tormented my soul. And I’ve wrongly used the opinion of others to assess my success.

Thus, my love, though as genuine as I knew how to give it, was not entirely pure. All along, even unknowingly, I was expecting a positive reaction to measure my success.

This hard, but valuable conversation set me on a journey to greater freedom and Joy.

Filled with the Father’s Love

Turning to scripture for answers, I read:

Jesus, knowing that the Father had given all things into His hands, and that He had come forth from God and was going back to God, gets up from supper, and lays aside His garments; and taking a towel, He girded Himself. Then He pours water into the basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel with which He was girded (John 13:3-5).

Jesus’ oneness with His Father gave Him the ability to live on a higher plain. Though Judas and Peter would soon betray and deny Him, he washed their feet anyway.

He loved them regardless of how they treated Him.

Jesus knew His Father’s love for Him, established before the world began.

Father, I desire that they also, whom You have given Me, be with Me where I am, so that they may see My glory which You have given Me, for You loved Me before the foundation of the world (John 17:24).

He had no need of to be validated by people. He knew the human heart and didn’t trust people to receive any identity from them.

Because of the miraculous signs Jesus did in Jerusalem at the Passover celebration, many began to trust in him. 24 But Jesus didn’t trust them, because he knew all about people. 25 No one needed to tell him about human nature, for he knew what was in each person’s heart (John 2:23-25 NLT).

Filled with His Father’s love, Jesus could love furiously, expecting nothing in return.

Lord may this be me!

You Can’t Define my Value

A counselor once told my wife and me that receiving our value from others is like giving an empty box to someone else and asking them to tell you who you are and what value you have. I remember, at the time, realizing I was giving my boss that power. 😑

This is not good.

If someone sent me to an ant colony to rescue the queen from an anteater and return after completing the job, would I really care about the ants’ opinions of me during my stay?

No. My citizenship is not in the ant colony.

Being raised up with Christ [1], my citizenship is now in heaven [2], even as I continue my journey home.

Living out my True Identity

How does Jesus and His love for me free me from needing to win approval from people?

As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love (John 15:9 NIV).

Jesus commands me to remain in His love, a love that surpasses my understanding.

According to scripture, I’ve done nothing to be placed in Christ and His love. [3]

My part is to stay where God has placed me.

But how? How do I remain in the love of Jesus, which frees me from needing the love and approval of others?

As I read further, I get my answer.

If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. 11 I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. 12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you (John 15:10-12 NIV).

Of all the commands mentioned in the Bible, Jesus settled in on one which summarizes them all. Our charge from Jesus is to love others as He has loved us.

We get a peak of this love in His washing of disciples’ feet, but this pales in what He did hours later. Jesus died on the cross in my stead to satisfy God’s wrath and to give me His righteousness.

This is the quality of love I’m to emulate. But this type of loving can only be achieved by His Spirit flowing through me.

If I focus on His incomparable love for me, rather than expecting a response from others, He allows me to travel in an eternal plain which frees me from needing anything from others.

Loving others as He’s loved me, allows me to remain in the flow of His love, and experience His complete Joy no matter what I experience on earth.

This unleashes me to love freely. No strings attached.

Prayer

Lord, You know I still struggle with judging my success by my perceived reaction from others. Thank You that You don’t give up on me in this regard. You want me free.

You are answering my prayers, showing me how silly it is to look to people for my worth.

In You, I’m completely loved, completely forgiven, completely accomplished. [4] I lack nothing. Even if every person in the world despised me, I’m okay because You love me. 😁

Reflections

Dear reader. Perhaps you struggle with this along with me.

We’re loved by the Creator of the universe with an unimaginable love which knows no bounds. He’s invited us to swim in His great love.

Imagine His love being like an ocean, which is beyond measure in all directions. [5]

His love is deeper than any worldly pain.

His love fills us with complete Joy.

Have you, like me, handed your value box to someone else to tell you your worth?

We hand our value box to no one but the One who loved us and gave Himself up to set us free.

I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me (Galatians 2:20).

The only person whose opinion counts looks at me and finds me more valuable than all the jewels in the world – Tim Keller

[1] Ephesians 2:6

[2] Ephesians 2:19

[3] I Corinthians 1:30

[4] Colossians 2:9-10

[5] Ephesians 3:16-19

Note: Unless otherwise noted, all referenced Scripture is from the NASB 1995 Version of the Bible.

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Turning Gainers into Drainers

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Celebrating with Joy – In Memory of a Friend

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(In the Moments) Lord, You’ve Got To Do This. I Can’t.

April 24, 2025 robuck4@aol.com 2 Comments

My father was at a low point in his life. He’d lost his marriage, his home, and his ability to live a normal life. Alcoholism imprisoned him. I tried to comfort him, but my words didn’t help.

One day, I read Jesus’ words to him, “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For My yoke is easy and My burden is light” (Matthew 11:28-30 NASB).

I explained to Dad that Jesus wanted to give him rest from his life shattering burden and to shoulder what he’d been carrying for so long. He wept.

As a child, my grandparents had taken my dad to church, but the philosophies of the military college he attended led him to doubt God’s existence. When I was growing up, my mom was the one who took us to church. Dad rarely joined us.

But Jesus’ words that day opened up the eyes of his heart.

Come to Me

I love these verses as well. They speak deeply to my often-burdened heart. Sometimes, because I’ve moved ahead of God to do my own things, or, because of the ferociousness of life, I feel weary and heavy-ladened, just like Dad.

“Weary and heavy-laden” – fatigued and over-burdened.

“Come” – “come hither” or “come this way”.

Jesus invites us to come to Him and remain with Him, to journey with Him. He promises to give us true rest, to take our burdens upon Himself, to teach us His gentle, humble heart as we travel together.

Dad’s Conversion and Continued Struggles

Eventually, Dad entrusted his life to Christ. We went to Bible studies together, and he was a part of our small group. He’d have seasons of sobriety, but he still struggled.

There was a gap between his reality and the deliverance he longed for. He went to alcoholics anonymous meetings and was in and out of rehab centers.

All along, he’d been asking God to help him quit, but it wasn’t working.

Lord, You do it, I Can’t

One day he came to the end of himself and cried, “God. I’ve tried everything I know. This isn’t working. I can’t do this. You’re going to have to do it.”

At that moment, Dad stopped asking God to help him. He started asking God, who Indwelled Him, to be his self-control.

A bit later, after cutting the grass, he opened a beer and took a sip. It tasted horrible. He poured it out and never had another drop to drink the last fifteen years of his life.

Our Union with Christ

Dad modeled for me a powerful truth. Christ Himself is our life.

Jesus said. “I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing” (John 15:5 NASB).

Paul said it this way, “for it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure (Philippians 2:13 NASB)

I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me (Galatians 2:20 NASB).

God never designed us to live life apart from Him. God pierced Christ for our transgressions [1] so that He might share His life with us. By God’s doing, we’ve been placed in Christ [2] and seated with Him in heavenly places. [3] We’re indwelt by the Holy Spirit of Jesus. [4]

As children of God, we’re new creations. [5] We’re united with Christ. God’s purpose is to transform us into the image of His Son. [6] But His way is not for us to try harder to improve ourselves. We died and our lives are now hidden in Christ. Christ now is our life. [7] We’re to yield to Him.

Challenge

What are you currently struggling with in your walk with Christ? Like my dad, it could be an addiction. It might have to do with a relationship, finances, a job, your health.

Like in my dad’s case, anything which causes us to realize we can’t, and God can, has the possibility to draw us deeper into our true-Life Source, but it takes humility and utter dependence.

We need to say, along with my dad, “God, I’ve tried everything I know to escape this burden. I can’t do it. Please work through me.”