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(In the Moments) When I Don’t Feel God’s Lovingkindness

January 6, 2025 robuck4@aol.com Leave a comment

It’s a brisk fall afternoon in the mountains of North Carolina. I’m perched on a bench above the Cove Conference center, enjoying the warmth of the sun on my face as it rises above the mountainous horizon. The fiery reds, burnished oranges, golden yellows, and chocolate browns of the trees ignite my senses and inspire my soul.

Sipping some cool water, I open my Bible and read about God’s lovingkindness toward us.

O God, You are my God; I shall seek You earnestly; My soul thirsts for You, my flesh yearns for You, In a dry and weary land where there is no water. Thus I have seen You in the sanctuary, To see Your power and Your glory. Because Your lovingkindness is better than life, My lips will praise You. (Psalm 63:1-3)

David was in the wilderness when he penned Psalm 63 and he compared his longing soul to dry, cracked soil. He desperately needed God’s presence, His Rivers of Living Water. (John 7:37-39)

I can relate to David’s desperate longings for God, but what catches my attention is the phrase “lovingkindness.” David says it’s better than life itself.

Lovingkindness. What does it really mean? I’ve heard people say that if you compare love to a piece of freshly baked bread, slathered with butter. Lovingkindness is like adding strawberry preserves to what’s already succulently delicious.

The Hebrew word used here means goodness, faithfulness, and kindness.

Jesus tells us God’s love for us is as great as the Father’s love for Him. (John 15:9) Paul uses words about God’s love for us, which conger images of an ocean of love, beyond our understanding. (Ephesians 3:16-21)

When life is good, I can recognize God’s lovingkindness. However, in hard times, I don’t always feel loved, mostly because I don’t feel lovable.

Two situations come to mind.

When I fail
When I’m hurt.

When I Fail

I hate failing. I’ve had failures as a husband, as a father, as a son, as a brother, as an employee and an employer, as a friend, etc. Failure can cause me to feel unlovable. How can I be loved, given my many failures?

As I write, the Holy Spirit reminds me:

I am united with Christ in his death and resurrection. Christ raised me and seated me with him in heavenly places. (Ephesians 2:6) Despite my failures, I’m perfectly loved by God hidden with Christ in Him (Colossians 3:3-4) Even though, in this temporal realm, I’m far from perfect, God loves me as much as He loves Jesus (John 15:9).

And although you were formerly alienated and hostile in mind, engaged in evil deeds, yet He has now reconciled you in His fleshly body through death, in order to present you before Him holy and blameless and beyond reproach. (Colossians 1:21-22)

In Christ, I’m holy, blameless and beyond reproach. When I see this, and believe it by faith, I feel God’s lovingkindness, even in my failures. There are truths about me in Christ which can’t change. They’re eternal, beyond the reach of the temporal.

When I’m Hurt

I struggle to embrace God’s lovingkindness when others hurt me. Being hurt can cause deep emotional pain, making me feel rejected and unlovable, even by God.

When I invite God into my pain, I do sense His presence and comfort. I’m learning not to rely on the love of others for my value.

What helps is to realize the surpassing greatness of God’s love compared to even our dearest earthly relationships. All human relationships must be secondary to our relationship with God. In fact, in Luke 14:26 Jesus says, “If anyone comes to Me, and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.”

Compared to God’s great love, human love is like hate. God’s lovingkindness far exceeds all human affection. When I get a grasp of the expanse of His surpassing love for me, I’m filled with joy, even when people are unusually cruel.

More and more I seek love only from Him. This frees me up to love others for their sake, not for what I might get out of the relationship.

Better Than Life

God’s love overshadows everything about us. When life is hardest, His lovingkindness shines even brighter. As a diamond sparkles against a dark background, God’s love is more brilliant in our darkest days.

Challenge

Is there a situation you’re in right now which is threatening to overshadow your awareness of God’s love for you? It could be a pattern of failure, hurt from people you love, or some other situation.

By faith, count as true the words of the Apostle Paul, from Ephesians 3:14-19, concerning God’s surpassing love for us: For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, 15 from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name, 16 that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner man, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; and that you, being rooted and grounded in love, 18 may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, 19 and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God.

Soak in His love for you and receive it, even if it does surpass knowledge.

Prayer

Lord, I rest in Your love right now. I desire to walk in Your love throughout the day. Even when I go through hard times, your love shines brighter and brighter. You are faithful. You are good. You are kind.

You love me.

Your lovingkindness is everlasting. (Psalm 136)

Your lovingkindness is better than life.

Please keep me aware of You and Your love every moment of my life.

Amen

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Other posts in our series In the Moments:

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Exploring Grace and Joy together

Stay Present My Friends

Quiddity. It Could Change Your Life

The Cake Maker’s Blunder

God at Work (No Trespassing)

Hidden with Christ in God

Finding Joy in Love and Relationships

Escaping the Rat Race

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Fearless

(In the Moments) The Cake Maker’s Blunder

November 13, 2024 robuck4@aol.com Leave a comment

The bride had waited for this moment. She’d be marrying the man of her dreams. And she had the perfect verse for her wedding cake. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear (I John 4:18 NASB).

She struggled with fear and wanted God’s perfect love to cast it out.

Wedding week had arrived. Final preparations were underway.

She received a call from the cake maker. “Are you absolutely sure you want I John 4:18 on your wedding cake?” he asked.

“Very sure. It’s one of my favorites.”

“Okay,” the baker responded. “It’s your wedding.”

The bride didn’t have the brain space to give the call much thought, but later she wished she’d followed up.

The cake maker wasn’t familiar with the Bible. He thought 1 John meant the first book of John he came across. So, the surprised bride got John 4:18 on her cake instead, “for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; this you have said truly.”

The bride felt deeply humiliated. Eventually, the couple laughed about the cake maker’s mistake. And they continued to ask the Lord to show them how perfect love casts out fear.

How Does Perfect Love Cast Out Fear?

Perfect Love

The Greek word John used for “perfect” means completed, finished, lacking nothing.

God’s love is perfect, like a swaddled child, safe and warm in its mother’s embrace. God’s presence yields a transcendent peace which surpasses all comprehension in the face of any fear [1].

Paul describes the quality of God’s perfect love, in Ephesians 3:14-19. He prays we might comprehend it, though it surpasses our knowledge.

For this reason I bend my knees before the Father, 15 from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name, 16 that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner self, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; and that you, being rooted and grounded in love, 18 may comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and height and depth, 19 and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled to all the fullness of God.

When I read Paul’s description of God’s love, I picture a love as deep and long and wide as the ocean and as high as the sky.

God’s perfect love truly surpasses our knowledge. Paul prays that what won’t fit in our heads will come alive in our hearts, our love receptor. [2]

Disagreeing with Lies

God’s love grounds us. So, it’s no wonder our enemy uses doubt and fear, trying to block our awareness of it.

As much as God is love, Satan is fear. He’s a defeated foe and his tactics don’t change. He relentlessly uses deception and empty fear, luring us away from resting in God’s great love for us.

But our weapons of truth and prayer are divinely powerful to demolish these fortified strongholds, destroying his work in our lives and casting out his fear.

For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh, 4 for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses. 5 We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ (II Corinthians 10:3-5 NASB).

Our job is to take every thought captive. Soaking in the truth of God’s perfect love, we learn to disagree with Satan’s lies and cast away his fear.

Remaining in Perfect Love

Besides praying for our hearts to be enlightened with God’s perfect love, and disagreeing with Satan’s lies, Jesus gives us explicit instruction on how we can continually live in His perfect love.

“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. 10 If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. 11 I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. 12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” (John 15:9-12 NIV)

In these vital words, Jesus helps us understand the depth of His perfect love toward us. “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you.” Love can’t be more perfect.

Then He tells us how to abide or live in His love. To remain in His perfect love, which dispels fear, we’re to love others as He’s loved us. “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.”

And the love we’re to love with comes from Him. “We love, because He first loved us” (I John 4:19 NASB). (The verse after the bride’s verse).

The great cadence of our lives, which dispels every fear, is to receive God’s perfect love and give it away.